Single = An Opportunity

If you are single…

Single isn’t a label, a derogatory term, and most certainly doesn’t define you. Take this time to find yourself and what makes you happy. I promise, if you do this outside of finding it in someone else, you won’t be sorry. When the right one finds you (and they will) you will be so much happier and a much better partner for your person and a much better version of yourself for you!

Published by Joni@GrieftoLife

Gotta love the 'About Me' sections of everything. I feel like I'm either in a one sided interview or trying to create a dating profile. "I like starry nights and long walks on the beach" Ha! All jokes aside, it is necessary to share your story. Especially in a place like this where you hope to reach people through your struggles. So here goes everything... Hi everyone 👋🏼 Grief is a journey, an ever changing and painful process. It can isolate you and make you feel more lonely than one could ever imagine. That is why I write and share my story. We need support. We need people that "get it." We need each other. I was married to the love of my life, just shy of 13 years. We went to school together, known him since elementary. He was my "boyfriend" in 5th grade. I even wrote "Joni Roberts" in my notebooks and cheered for him when he played basketball at recess 😂 We came back together when we went to the prom, as friends, our senior year in high school. That was in 1997. We started dating seriously in the summer of 1998. He asked me to be his wife in February of 1999. We said "I do" on October 2nd of the same year. We had our first child in October of 2000, our son. We had our daughter, 22 months later in August of 2002. In the time we were married, we went through more than most could go through in a lifetime. We never gave up on each other. In June of 2012, he and I were in a horrible car accident that claimed his life. In an instant, my entire world was shattered, leaving me a grieving single mother of two grieving children who are now teenagers. I'm walking day by day through life without the one that would be with me forever. I would have never imagined that this is where I would be in my life at 38 years old. But, I am doing everything I can to be strong, to raise our two children, to take this grief and use it to fuel the purpose for the rest of my days here on earth. ONE. DAY. AT. A. TIME. Today: I am in the waiting room for my first neurologist appointment. It is in the same office as my surgeon from the accident. I'm sitting here remembering myself horribly hurt and in a wheelchair and I'm overwhelmed with feelings but mostly reflecting on how far I've come. I love and miss my best friend every single day. I'm positive that won't change until we are together again. I am choosing to try and live my life in a way that would honor him and make him proud. Living With Purpose.

4 thoughts on “Single = An Opportunity

  1. We are like puzzles fitting together – but to find the missing puzzles that it really fits, that it gives you a picture of both (pot and lid) this is so difficult and rather to stay alone and be happy as things are than to be with someone who makes life more complicated.

    However, when there is a really good partnership then both profit, both can reach the stage of bliss and happiness. They come together as two single ones but leave the world as one…

    All the best my friend and a happy time to you 🙂
    Didi

  2. Love, to takes care!

    Gikovate, a Brazilian medico-psychiatrist, says that, for the couple, the AFFINITIES, of to one with other, is a necessary condition for a good quality relationship.

    And, treating the other as you would like to be treated, is a basic rule, in civilized contexts. The ethics of GOOD operates fair practices and healthy and reciprocal relationships.

  3. Thank you for sharing!!.. “While you’re busy looking for the perfect person, you’ll probably miss the imperfect person who could make you perfectly happy”. ( Author Unknown)… 🙂

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