Mental Health Article

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Mental Health Article

Published by Joni@GrieftoLife

Gotta love the 'About Me' sections of everything. I feel like I'm either in a one sided interview or trying to create a dating profile. "I like starry nights and long walks on the beach" Ha! All jokes aside, it is necessary to share your story. Especially in a place like this where you hope to reach people through your struggles. So here goes everything... Hi everyone πŸ‘‹πŸΌ Grief is a journey, an ever changing and painful process. It can isolate you and make you feel more lonely than one could ever imagine. That is why I write and share my story. We need support. We need people that "get it." We need each other. I was married to the love of my life, just shy of 13 years. We went to school together, known him since elementary. He was my "boyfriend" in 5th grade. I even wrote "Joni Roberts" in my notebooks and cheered for him when he played basketball at recess πŸ˜‚ We came back together when we went to the prom, as friends, our senior year in high school. That was in 1997. We started dating seriously in the summer of 1998. He asked me to be his wife in February of 1999. We said "I do" on October 2nd of the same year. We had our first child in October of 2000, our son. We had our daughter, 22 months later in August of 2002. In the time we were married, we went through more than most could go through in a lifetime. We never gave up on each other. In June of 2012, he and I were in a horrible car accident that claimed his life. In an instant, my entire world was shattered, leaving me a grieving single mother of two grieving children who are now teenagers. I'm walking day by day through life without the one that would be with me forever. I would have never imagined that this is where I would be in my life at 38 years old. But, I am doing everything I can to be strong, to raise our two children, to take this grief and use it to fuel the purpose for the rest of my days here on earth. ONE. DAY. AT. A. TIME. Today: I am in the waiting room for my first neurologist appointment. It is in the same office as my surgeon from the accident. I'm sitting here remembering myself horribly hurt and in a wheelchair and I'm overwhelmed with feelings but mostly reflecting on how far I've come. I love and miss my best friend every single day. I'm positive that won't change until we are together again. I am choosing to try and live my life in a way that would honor him and make him proud. Living With Purpose.

3 thoughts on “Mental Health Article

  1. Dear Joni,
    This is such a great job and effort here, and for such an imperative cause that often times is overshadowed with politics of living in a complex world. Your historical context you provide gave me a clear understanding of the framework that we should all want to apply as best we can to our own individual lives to prevent unnecessary suffering and disappointment or even regret; β€œto fuel the purpose for the rest of my days here on earth. ONE. DAY. AT. A. TIME. Today,” yes just what you said there; this is the crux of it, taking care of the here and now and LIVING in the MOMENT making each one count to the best of our own individual capabilities, while working with those around us to make life as good as we can and expressing our genuine love for one another in the process.
    Thank for this perspective and indeed wake-up call for me, as I’m sure so many others too!

      1. Absolutely Joni, my pleasure! To me your story is so compelling and timely, that I know it’s a blessing for you to share it the way you have. I’m honored to have this connection to it; and to you!
        God Bless You and Yours πŸ™πŸ™‚

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