Break the Silence

People are often afraid to bring up our loved ones. They, with the best of intentions, don’t want to say something that might bring hurt or pain.

Let me help you.

There isn’t anything that can hurt me worse or cause more pain than I’ve already experienced.

That being said, please know that the silence is what brings hurt.

We NEED to hear their names.

We WANT people to talk about them, to tell stories, etc.

Help us by reminding us that they haven’t been forgotten.

#SayTheirName

Published by Joni@GrieftoLife

Gotta love the 'About Me' sections of everything. I feel like I'm either in a one sided interview or trying to create a dating profile. "I like starry nights and long walks on the beach" Ha! All jokes aside, it is necessary to share your story. Especially in a place like this where you hope to reach people through your struggles. So here goes everything... Hi everyone 👋🏼 Grief is a journey, an ever changing and painful process. It can isolate you and make you feel more lonely than one could ever imagine. That is why I write and share my story. We need support. We need people that "get it." We need each other. I was married to the love of my life, just shy of 13 years. We went to school together, known him since elementary. He was my "boyfriend" in 5th grade. I even wrote "Joni Roberts" in my notebooks and cheered for him when he played basketball at recess 😂 We came back together when we went to the prom, as friends, our senior year in high school. That was in 1997. We started dating seriously in the summer of 1998. He asked me to be his wife in February of 1999. We said "I do" on October 2nd of the same year. We had our first child in October of 2000, our son. We had our daughter, 22 months later in August of 2002. In the time we were married, we went through more than most could go through in a lifetime. We never gave up on each other. In June of 2012, he and I were in a horrible car accident that claimed his life. In an instant, my entire world was shattered, leaving me a grieving single mother of two grieving children who are now teenagers. I'm walking day by day through life without the one that would be with me forever. I would have never imagined that this is where I would be in my life at 38 years old. But, I am doing everything I can to be strong, to raise our two children, to take this grief and use it to fuel the purpose for the rest of my days here on earth. ONE. DAY. AT. A. TIME. Today: I am in the waiting room for my first neurologist appointment. It is in the same office as my surgeon from the accident. I'm sitting here remembering myself horribly hurt and in a wheelchair and I'm overwhelmed with feelings but mostly reflecting on how far I've come. I love and miss my best friend every single day. I'm positive that won't change until we are together again. I am choosing to try and live my life in a way that would honor him and make him proud. Living With Purpose.

9 thoughts on “Break the Silence

    1. The names of our loved ones who have passed away. To hear stories of how their friends enjoyed their company, “so and so always made the funniest comments when we were jogging (or whatever you were doing).” or “I really miss our tennis matches, (or baseball games etc) I always had to slow down so he could win, or he use to beat the pants off of me” or “I remember the time he/she did…..and I bust a gut laughing” etc etc etc. We enjoy the memories, it brings a smile to think of the interaction our loved one had with their friends and others. It’s a treat to be able to hear those memories from their friends.

  1. Thank you for sharing!… the best way to heal is to live the memories!. 🙂

    “Don’t cry because it’s over, smile because it happened.” ― Dr. Seuss

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