More Than A Memory

Published by Joni@GrieftoLife

Gotta love the 'About Me' sections of everything. I feel like I'm either in a one sided interview or trying to create a dating profile. "I like starry nights and long walks on the beach" Ha! All jokes aside, it is necessary to share your story. Especially in a place like this where you hope to reach people through your struggles. So here goes everything... Hi everyone 👋🏼 Grief is a journey, an ever changing and painful process. It can isolate you and make you feel more lonely than one could ever imagine. That is why I write and share my story. We need support. We need people that "get it." We need each other. I was married to the love of my life, just shy of 13 years. We went to school together, known him since elementary. He was my "boyfriend" in 5th grade. I even wrote "Joni Roberts" in my notebooks and cheered for him when he played basketball at recess 😂 We came back together when we went to the prom, as friends, our senior year in high school. That was in 1997. We started dating seriously in the summer of 1998. He asked me to be his wife in February of 1999. We said "I do" on October 2nd of the same year. We had our first child in October of 2000, our son. We had our daughter, 22 months later in August of 2002. In the time we were married, we went through more than most could go through in a lifetime. We never gave up on each other. In June of 2012, he and I were in a horrible car accident that claimed his life. In an instant, my entire world was shattered, leaving me a grieving single mother of two grieving children who are now teenagers. I'm walking day by day through life without the one that would be with me forever. I would have never imagined that this is where I would be in my life at 38 years old. But, I am doing everything I can to be strong, to raise our two children, to take this grief and use it to fuel the purpose for the rest of my days here on earth. ONE. DAY. AT. A. TIME. Today: I am in the waiting room for my first neurologist appointment. It is in the same office as my surgeon from the accident. I'm sitting here remembering myself horribly hurt and in a wheelchair and I'm overwhelmed with feelings but mostly reflecting on how far I've come. I love and miss my best friend every single day. I'm positive that won't change until we are together again. I am choosing to try and live my life in a way that would honor him and make him proud. Living With Purpose.

8 thoughts on “More Than A Memory

  1. Good Evening Joni. You continue to be a great model and mentor to your Daughter and Son. In your writing on this post, and obviously in your daily life, you show the value and importance of the life of your husband, their father, before his much too early passing.
    Your Daughter and Son have learned, and continue to learn, the value he had in his life. As well, they are learning the value of a strong marital, family relationship.
    Although they were young when their father unfortunately passed away, they will never forget the remarkable heritage they have from you and he.
    They have learned, are still learning through you, love, honour, respect never die once they are earned, and you keep sharing each of these so honestly and powerfully, your Son and Daughter are blessed to have the opportunity to learn and hold onto these values.
    Beyond your family, Joni, many who know you personally, or read and follow your blog, are also able to learn how to continue in life after a devastating experience. Your life is a beacon allowing the Light of the Life of the world, Jesus Christ, to shine through.
    Thank you Joni, and God Bless you and your family during this celebration of Resurrection Sunday, when we again reflect on the Love of Christ, and His sacrifice being the reason we are able to have the assurance of Eternal Life with Him, and loved ones who also know Jesus Christ as Saviour.

      1. Happy Easter Joni, to you and your Daughter and Son. We can celebrate this day, because we know the Resurrection of Christ, and our Acceptance of Him, is the reason you will again see your husband in Heaven, and will rejoice with him, worshiping the King of kings and Lord of lords. Hallelujah!

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