Living for Two

My heart continues to look for you. It doesn’t understand the physical separation and wasn’t ready for you to go.
My soul knows that you are at peace and assures me that we will meet again.
As difficult as it is to accept, I won’t see you again this side of heaven. I will try my absolute best to live, this earthly life I have left, to the fullest.

Published by Joni@GrieftoLife

Gotta love the 'About Me' sections of everything. I feel like I'm either in a one sided interview or trying to create a dating profile. "I like starry nights and long walks on the beach" Ha! All jokes aside, it is necessary to share your story. Especially in a place like this where you hope to reach people through your struggles. So here goes everything... Hi everyone 👋🏼 Grief is a journey, an ever changing and painful process. It can isolate you and make you feel more lonely than one could ever imagine. That is why I write and share my story. We need support. We need people that "get it." We need each other. I was married to the love of my life, just shy of 13 years. We went to school together, known him since elementary. He was my "boyfriend" in 5th grade. I even wrote "Joni Roberts" in my notebooks and cheered for him when he played basketball at recess 😂 We came back together when we went to the prom, as friends, our senior year in high school. That was in 1997. We started dating seriously in the summer of 1998. He asked me to be his wife in February of 1999. We said "I do" on October 2nd of the same year. We had our first child in October of 2000, our son. We had our daughter, 22 months later in August of 2002. In the time we were married, we went through more than most could go through in a lifetime. We never gave up on each other. In June of 2012, he and I were in a horrible car accident that claimed his life. In an instant, my entire world was shattered, leaving me a grieving single mother of two grieving children who are now teenagers. I'm walking day by day through life without the one that would be with me forever. I would have never imagined that this is where I would be in my life at 38 years old. But, I am doing everything I can to be strong, to raise our two children, to take this grief and use it to fuel the purpose for the rest of my days here on earth. ONE. DAY. AT. A. TIME. Today: I am in the waiting room for my first neurologist appointment. It is in the same office as my surgeon from the accident. I'm sitting here remembering myself horribly hurt and in a wheelchair and I'm overwhelmed with feelings but mostly reflecting on how far I've come. I love and miss my best friend every single day. I'm positive that won't change until we are together again. I am choosing to try and live my life in a way that would honor him and make him proud. Living With Purpose.

11 thoughts on “Living for Two

  1. Thanks for sharing!… hope you have a Happy New Year and the new year is all that you wished for it to be…. 🙂
    “There are things that we don’t want to happen but have to accept, things we don’t want to know but have to learn, people we can’t live without but have to let go.”
    ? Nancy Stephan

  2. I am working on ” living for two” but it’s difficult. I put up a good front but my heart aches and my head hurts trying. So thankful I found this blog tonight, I will be following

    1. So nice to connect with those who “get it”. You’re right, it’s so difficult. It really takes work and it’s exhausting. Big hugs. Will follow back ??

  3. I have experienced loss with my human family and most recently with my fur family. I know they are totally different but I feel the loss hurts the same. Thank you for sharing these deep words.

  4. There’s an innocent and true love in these words. It’s so bittersweet but hopeful.
    Thank you for the follow! I’m very happy you found me worth keeping around!

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