My Constant

An Open Letter to My Dad in Heaven

Dad,

I woke up this morning feeling different than I ever have in my entire life. There isn’t even an adjective that could adequately describe it. I should be able to use a word I’ve used before because I know the pain of loss. But, just as people can’t truly be compared, neither can any loss.

I bounce back and forth from one moment feeling relief that you are not suffering and are in a better place, to the next where there is the heart-wrenching realization that you are never coming back.

I can’t believe you’re gone. It still seems so unreal.

But, it is real.

I can’t pick up the phone and call you. I can’t hear your voice. I can’t stop in to visit. I can’t see you.

I’m heart broken because I love you more than you could have ever known. There were two or three times over the years where I either wrote in a card or told you how much I appreciated who you were in my life, but no words could have ever expressed what you meant to me.

You were the first man I ever loved. You were the strong and silent presence in my childhood and as I was growing up. You became my friend as I got older and went through many hard times in my adult life, while still being the strong voice of reason that never sugar coated anything. You were one that I could always count on to give it to me straight, whether I wanted to hear it or not. You were the constant in a life filled with chaos, tragedy, and pain.

My constant…

You were the strong example of what a man should be. Not only for me, but for my kids who didn’t have that in their life when they lost their own Dad so young. They lost so much on top of losing him and although they might not have seen you every single day, they knew you were there.

Constant…

That’s what real love is.

I will never be able to fully express what that has meant to me; to all of us.

You are loved and will be so incredibly missed.

Thank you.

Thank you for loving me.

Thank you for being my Dad.

Thank you for being you.

My constant….

11 comments

  1. I’m so sorry, Joni. My heart breaks for you 💔

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  2. So sorry! There is nothing like a good father! So glad you had one! ❤ ❤ ❤

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  3. Prayers for you and your family as you grieve the loss of your constant.

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  4. Dear Joni

    I could feel your love which brought me some tears in my eyes. It is always very painful when we lose someone we really love very much. This is the pain of separation. On the other side, when we have much trust and confidence in God, then this “borrowed dust”, which we are, returns in it real form back into the lap of the Father – as light and love. Knowing that everything is in His hands may soothe our pain – and some day we are all together in Him again, the drop of the Ocean…

    From heart to heart
    Didi

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  5. I am so sorry for your loss. Hold on tight to the gifts he left you – his love, his lessons and his light.

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  6. There are no words so just sending you a virtual hug instead xxx

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  7. inhiscare753 says:

    Thank you for reaching out, I am sorry for the loss of your father.
    My condolences to you and your family. May you find comfort and strength in the the Lord. I will keep you and your family in my thoughts and prayers.
    The cherished moments and the memories will forever be apart of his legacy.

    InHisCare,
    Yonnie

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  8. DutchIl says:

    Sorry for your loss, but you have him every second of time because he is all around you and in your heart!!… thanks for sharing!… 🙂

    Do not stand at my grave and weep
    I am not there, I do not sleep
    I am a thousand winds that blow
    I am the diamonds glints in the snow
    I am the sunlight on ripened grain
    I am the gentle autumn rain
    When you awaking in the morning hush
    I am the swift uplifting rush of quiet birds in circled flight
    I am the soft star that shines at night
    Do not stand by my grave and cry
    I am not there, I did not die
    (Mary Elizabeth Frye)

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  9. rogerholmack says:

    My deepest condolences in the death of your daddy. Hugs.

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  10. yggdrasil says:

    My heart and thoughts go out to you. 💖

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