National Widow’s Day

Yes, it’s a thing.
Today is National Widow’s Day
#widowedstrong
#saytheirname
JONATHAN ROBERTS
Did you know… 800,000 people are widowed each year?
Did you know… 700,000 of those are women?
Did you know… most widows live in poverty? (Over 115 million world wide)
Did you know… “death of a spouse” is listed as the #1 stressor on the stress index scale and is considered one of life’s most devastating events?
Did you know… 60% of those who lose a spouse or significant other will experience a serious illness within 12 months?
Did you know… insomnia is one of the most common symptoms for a grieving spouse?
Did you know… most widow(er)s lose 75% of their support base when their spouse dies?
Did you know… after 3 – 4 months most of the remaining support fades for a widow(er)?
Did you know… most widow(er)s lose touch with their in-laws within a year of a loss?
Did you know… it really is possible to die of a broken heart? Widow(er)s have a 30% elevated risk of death in the first 6 months after their spouse death.
Thank you GOD I beat almost every stat listed. I did lose some relationships but I gained some stronger ones as well…
Be nice to a widow today, you DON’T know what they deal with privately .
Writing Credit – Kisha Taylor from SUPPORT GROUP – Young, Widowed & Dating – Not a Dating Site

Published by Joni@GrieftoLife

Gotta love the 'About Me' sections of everything. I feel like I'm either in a one sided interview or trying to create a dating profile. "I like starry nights and long walks on the beach" Ha! All jokes aside, it is necessary to share your story. Especially in a place like this where you hope to reach people through your struggles. So here goes everything... Hi everyone 👋🏼 Grief is a journey, an ever changing and painful process. It can isolate you and make you feel more lonely than one could ever imagine. That is why I write and share my story. We need support. We need people that "get it." We need each other. I was married to the love of my life, just shy of 13 years. We went to school together, known him since elementary. He was my "boyfriend" in 5th grade. I even wrote "Joni Roberts" in my notebooks and cheered for him when he played basketball at recess 😂 We came back together when we went to the prom, as friends, our senior year in high school. That was in 1997. We started dating seriously in the summer of 1998. He asked me to be his wife in February of 1999. We said "I do" on October 2nd of the same year. We had our first child in October of 2000, our son. We had our daughter, 22 months later in August of 2002. In the time we were married, we went through more than most could go through in a lifetime. We never gave up on each other. In June of 2012, he and I were in a horrible car accident that claimed his life. In an instant, my entire world was shattered, leaving me a grieving single mother of two grieving children who are now teenagers. I'm walking day by day through life without the one that would be with me forever. I would have never imagined that this is where I would be in my life at 38 years old. But, I am doing everything I can to be strong, to raise our two children, to take this grief and use it to fuel the purpose for the rest of my days here on earth. ONE. DAY. AT. A. TIME. Today: I am in the waiting room for my first neurologist appointment. It is in the same office as my surgeon from the accident. I'm sitting here remembering myself horribly hurt and in a wheelchair and I'm overwhelmed with feelings but mostly reflecting on how far I've come. I love and miss my best friend every single day. I'm positive that won't change until we are together again. I am choosing to try and live my life in a way that would honor him and make him proud. Living With Purpose.

58 thoughts on “National Widow’s Day

  1. I have been widowed for seven years. No serious illnesses ensued,but I did lose much of my emotional support, within three months. I am still in touch with my wife’s mother and one of her sisters.

    1. So glad that you haven’t experience some of those things that make an already horrible situation worse. I’m so sorry for your loss. It will be six years, next month, for me.

  2. I never knew this about today ! My heart is with you today. May God guide you each step you take to provide love and guidance and encouragement in your day.

  3. Thanks Joni. Valuable information that is often not thought of unless you are in the situation, or close to someone who is.
    Our Care Pastor at our church has a series of Grief Classes 2-3 Times a year, open to anyone in the community, which has been a benefit to many.
    Also, the same Pastor leads a Solo Sister Ministry, for single ladies, single for any reason, over 50 or 55 years of age, I can’t recall, for support for one another, as well as fun times, which us also open to ladies in the community, and a blessing.
    This Pastor has been a widow herself for 15-18 years, so knows the difficult times.
    God Bless you Joni.

    1. That’s really nice that she’s been able to reach people in that way. Thanks for your comment and God Bless you!

  4. #saytheirname
    JESSICA STEVENSON
    Thank you for sharing this Joni. You are amazingly strong and have overcome so much! ??

  5. Didn’t know a day like this exited, praise God that the list doesn’t apply to you! This is also the national day of prayer; the first Thursday every May.
    Father, thank you that even though this a day set aside for Widows; that it’s also a day set aside to pray for the nation. So Father I pray for Joni, and all of the Widows. Strength and Hope, can forever be found; in You! In Jesus’ name, Amen!
    Be blessed my sister!

  6. I never knew about this … but can honestly say you can die of a broken heart … my parents past within 6months of each other … my mom did have health issues but after my dad passed she just gave up … I’m happy you are so strong . Keep smiling ! Hugs??

  7. I read your profile and immediately pressed a follow button.???
    Your image?impression ?.that you gives gentle compassion to around ppl?????
    You are a lovely woman,I think????

  8. I will not say, that I’m sorry for your lost, cause it’s a formality that almost never helps… But I’m really happy that inspite of your loss, you maintain a positive attitude towards life, and continue to inspire people through your posts.
    Your children are so lucky to have a mom like you!?

  9. I’m very sorry for your loss, I’m glad you survived and beat almost every stat listed, you husband must proud of you from wherever he is !!

  10. Thank you for sharing all this, dear Joni. I have also read your About site and that about the car accident. It is very sad to have lost your partner, but I am sure you are a very strong person. You must be a great mother to your two teenage children. I am sure this helps you move on. Also, you have all the support from us in the wordpress community. A blog is therapeutic as you write down your thoughts and feelings and share them with us all. And thank you for stopping by my blog! ?

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