The Pain is Worth the Cost

The pain of losing a spouse and watching your kids grieve the loss of their parent, brings a sorrow that I can’t quite put into words. It’s unlike any feeling I could’ve ever even imagined.

It is said that “it” gets better in time. Just give it time. Time heals all wounds. As well meaning as the one saying these things might be, it’s just not true.

“It” doesn’t get better and it most certainly doesn’t go away. But, you do learn to live with it. It becomes a part of you. Just as the person you grieve leaves an unexplainable void in your heart and life, the impact they had while living leaves an imprint in who you are. As you carry the pain that their loss leaves, you also carry them with you.

Deep grief is the price you pay for deep love. It is always worth the cost.

19 comments

  1. jottingink says:

    Straight from the heart .True love cannot be forgotten. .like you said one learns to live with it .May God give you strength to carry on .

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  2. Jeff Rab says:

    I agree, Joni, that time does not heal the pain. Over time, the pain may not cut like a sharp carving knife, but it still cuts, even if only a duller butter knife version. Peace to you!!

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  3. This is true. Sometimes our world flourish around us, making that loss easier to deal with. But the pain is always there, waiting for when our lives shrink back down.

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  4. By children lost their father when they were five and eight. Now they’re 39 and 37. They still grieve the loss of their father!

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  5. love your blog – love your healing process. I lost my father when i was 8 years old. my sister and i watched my mom heal from his death as we did. you are so right – “IT” never goes away. He died almost 40 years ago, and I still grieve the loss as well. IT has become a part of who I am, and I pray that I make him proud.

    your words are powerful. you and your kids are in my prayers.

    thank you for your blog. it will continue to bring healing to you and to others.

    Blessings to you,
    SB

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    • Joni says:

      Wow. Thank you so much. I’m not sure I have ever read a comment that meant so much. I am so sorry about the loss of your father. I hurt so bad watching my kids do life without their dad. But, I do try to be an example and help them go forward. You are in my prayers as well. Thanks again for your beautiful words. ❤️

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  6. J. M. Galindo says:

    I lost my father and…honestly I didn’t shed a tear but I felt shocked…I forgave him weeks before his death but losing him in December was practically a shock

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  7. Beautiful post. I am so sorry about your loss. I lost my sister to breast cancer last year and no matter how much time passes, life will never be the same. You may feel some healing headed your way but grief simply never goes away. We will miss them forever. ❤

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  8. Andrea J Sparks says:

    Oh Joni. I have just been going back and reading all your posts. This one definitely speaks to me. Thank you. Love you bunches. ❤

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  9. Tosh Thomas says:

    A heart touching one, joni… unfortunately loss is only painful for the one who has lost…we must develop a culture where we join in the pain of others… this could only be achieved through a sense of belongingness towards others.

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