Single isn’t a label, a derogatory term, and most certainly doesn’t define you. Take this time to find yourself and what makes you happy. I promise, if you do this outside of finding it in someone else, you won’t be sorry. When the right one finds you (and they will) you will be so much happier and a much better partner for your person and a much better version of yourself for you!
The world we now live in has changed how we treat each other. People are more concerned with what they are entitled to and being heard than anything else; treating people well has become a lost art. Think about this for a moment; people really do matter. The world of social media and living behind our phones and keyboards have caused us to dehumanize each other. It makes it so much easier to take someone’s feelings out of the equation when you don’t have to look them in the eye. But what about the idea of basic human decency, the morals and principles that most of us were raised to believe? I can’t control anyone but me, I know that, but regardless of how ugly the rest of the world decides to get; I’m going to treat others how I would want to be treated.
If they make you feel self-conscious, insecure, small, judged, or anything less than accepted, loved, and valued; they are NOT your people. Know this; it’s more than okay to walk away from the ones that aren’t your people.
Life isn’t all rainbows and sunshine. Those that portray “perfect” for all too see, with no glimpse of real life, are not only pretending for the camera, they’re lying to themselves. It’s actually very sad. Working so hard to make things “appear” a certain way is exhausting. It’s also hurting others as it’s only contributing to the picture so many already have in their head that tells them they just aren’t enough. Let’s combat what society has engrained in us by committing to being and showing more of our authentic selves. Just as you are; you are enough
Although grandchildren aren’t in the picture yet, this couldn’t be more true. Thinking ahead to that chapter of my life is sometimes too hard to even attempt; my heart won’t often let me go there.
You should be here.
You should have been here for all our kids have experienced and gone through, these last 7.5 years. Wait 😳- even just typing that number out seems so unreal.
You should be here now because they both need you so much. We have spent much time as of late talking about how different things would be, the heartache that we could have been spared, and all the things lost that might still be…had you not been taken from us. Sure, life would not have been perfect, but it would have been perfect to us because we would have walked through it all together. You could have never imagined the huge impact your loss would have on our lives and our hearts.
You should be here when our kids enter the next phase of their lives, when they begin their careers and pursue their heart’s desires, and when they eventually start families of their own. When there are grandchildren in the picture… I still can’t imagine you not being here for all of this. They will know you though! They will hear about your laugh, your sense of humor, your love for music, and how you would have tickled them, played with them, and how you would love them so big. They will hear about it all. They will know you.
When it’s all said and done; it’s not going to matter how many “friends” or followers you have, how much money you made, or any of the things that society deems so important. The most important thing in this life is whether or not you are prepared for the moment you draw your last breath on this earth.