Single = An Opportunity

If you are single…

Single isn’t a label, a derogatory term, and most certainly doesn’t define you. Take this time to find yourself and what makes you happy. I promise, if you do this outside of finding it in someone else, you won’t be sorry. When the right one finds you (and they will) you will be so much happier and a much better partner for your person and a much better version of yourself for you!

Just. Be. Kind.

The world we now live in has changed how we treat each other. People are more concerned with what they are entitled to and being heard than anything else; treating people well has become a lost art. Think about this for a moment; people really do matter. The world of social media and living behind our phones and keyboards have caused us to dehumanize each other. It makes it so much easier to take someone’s feelings out of the equation when you don’t have to look them in the eye. But what about the idea of basic human decency, the morals and principles that most of us were raised to believe? I can’t control anyone but me, I know that, but regardless of how ugly the rest of the world decides to get; I’m going to treat others how I would want to be treated.

Rainbows & Sunshine

Life isn’t all rainbows and sunshine. Those that portray “perfect” for all too see, with no glimpse of real life, are not only pretending for the camera, they’re lying to themselves. It’s actually very sad. Working so hard to make things “appear” a certain way is exhausting. It’s also hurting others as it’s only contributing to the picture so many already have in their head that tells them they just aren’t enough. Let’s combat what society has engrained in us by committing to being and showing more of our authentic selves.
Just as you are; you are enough

You Should be Here

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This ⬆️

Although grandchildren aren’t in the picture yet, this couldn’t be more true. Thinking ahead to that chapter of my life is sometimes too hard to even attempt; my heart won’t often let me go there.

You should be here.

You should have been here for all our kids have experienced and gone through, these last 7.5 years. Wait 😳- even just typing that number out seems so unreal.

You should be here now because they both need you so much. We have spent much time as of late talking about how different things would be, the heartache that we could have been spared, and all the things lost that might still be…had you not been taken from us. Sure, life would not have been perfect, but it would have been perfect to us because we would have walked through it all together. You could have never imagined the huge impact your loss would have on our lives and our hearts.

You should be here when our kids enter the next phase of their lives, when they begin their careers and pursue their heart’s desires, and when they eventually start families of their own. When there are grandchildren in the picture… I still can’t imagine you not being here for all of this. They will know you though! They will hear about your laugh, your sense of humor, your love for music, and how you would have tickled them, played with them, and how you would love them so big. They will hear about it all. They will know you.

You should be here.

Grief is Complicated

Clearly we grieve the person we lost, but what many don’t understand is that is only part of it.

We grieve who we were together, all that we shared, and who we were when they were here.

We grieve all the important things they have missed, and will miss.

We grieve the future we were supposed to have together.

The list goes on, and on.

Grief is complicated.

I Have Learned

I’m doing the best I can and that is always enough; I’m enough. 
My worth isn’t the sum of a number on a scale, what I do or do not accomplish, or how many “friends” I have. 
I am not defined by my past or the mistakes I’ve made. 
Happiness isn’t defined by a life without struggles, found in another person or material things, or society’s unrealistic standards. 
How I feel about and value myself is far more important than the opinions of other people and how they might perceive me. 
It’s okay to not be okay and I don’t have to hide my struggles. 
All of the things that have happened in my life, good and bad, have meaning and are a part of my story. 

I. Have. Learned. ❤️

It’s difficult to find meaning or purpose while in the midst of the pain. Time and reflection birth revelation and it’s then that acceptance, understanding, and peace will come.

CHOICES

Life is full of challenges.

There is no shortage of heartache and pain.

People will disappoint you; they might even walk away.

There are so many things that happen in this life that are beyond your control.

You can’t predict what will happen.

Even if you could, you lack the inability to dictate the outcome.

What is in your control is how you handle and react to what comes your way.

Choose to push forward.

Choose to learn and grow.

Choose to be thankful.

Choose to be kind.

Choose to live life fully.

Choose to love.

Just. Like. That.

Here and then gone.

Just. Like. That.

Life is precious and tomorrow isn’t promised.

When it’s all said and done; it’s not going to matter how many “friends” or followers you have, how much money you made, or any of the things that society deems so important. The most important thing in this life is whether or not you are prepared for the moment you draw your last breath on this earth.

Live this life you’ve been given.

Take the trip.

Make memories.

Take pictures.